Choose the safest next step.

Use the assessment when you’re unsure, or select a pathway if your situation is already clear.

Take the 2-minute assessment

REPAIR

Rebuild with shared accountability

Safe  •  Mutual effort  •  Repairable harm

Explore REPAIR

LIBERATE

Protect yourself and move forward

Unsafe  •  Repeated harm  •  Boundaries ignored

Explore LIBERATE

If you are in immediate danger, contact local emergency services.

What DISCERN helps you do

DISCERN is a guided decision tool for relationship harm and conflict. It helps you look at safety, accountability, repeated patterns, and impact before choosing whether to work toward repair or protect your wellbeing and move forward.

Assess what is happening

Answer a short set of questions when the safest direction is not yet clear.

Choose the fitting pathway

Use REPAIR for safe, mutual accountability or LIBERATE when harm and boundary violations continue.

Use the pathway tools

Follow the framework, track progress, and create commitments that match your situation.

The four domains considered in every decision

SafetyPhysical, emotional, and psychological security.
AccountabilityWhether responsibility and sustained change are present.
PatternFrequency, severity, escalation, and failed repair cycles.
ImpactEffects on wellbeing, identity, work, and other relationships.

DISCERN supports reflection and planning. It does not replace emergency, legal, medical, or mental-health services.